I have posted few entries back about my marital situation. For the past six months, I’ve been trying to help my husband get rid of some anger and rage he has inside of him. He’s been going to a psychiatrist. I’ve been supporting him and trying to be more understanding.
All this time I was doing all that because I thought that was the only thing keeping him from starting all over again and make this family work again.
WRONG! about 5 nights ago, I found out his affair never stopped. I found out I was betrayed a second time. This time, I found out worst things. how deeper their relationship has gotten and how many people they have betrayed too.
– his wife and son
– his mother and sister
– his bestfriends
– his bosses and colleagues
in short, people who have been trying to help him and support him all those months. People who believed he really wanted to get better. People who truly love him.
How do you get over the pain?
The pain of being betrayed by a friend — she was a college mate. She started with me on that same company 5 years ago and we’ve grown to be friends when I was PREGNANT WITH MY SON whose father she (sorry for the word) f*cked.
The pain of being lied to by your own husband — one too many times.
The pain of knowing your child’s father chose to stay with the woman and leave his family?
The pain. Oh, the pain.
How do you pick yourself up, stand up and move on?
how can you even stand up if you’ve been stomped on flat on the ground?
How do you move on knowing your son still has the need and right to see his father?
How? Lord, tell me how.
I know this woman has always had overlapping boyfriends, cheating on the current one with the next. I also know she was engaged when she started having an affair with my husband. I warned my husband about her. because i knew her that way. because her mother was also a mistress.
I can’t even come to understand how she could have done this to me. knowing we have so many close friends in the same company we’ve been working for, for the past five years. she had no conscience. she had no feelings. she had no care for this world but herself and her own desires.
I know she won’t stay long with my husband especially because he doesn’t have any money to even give her anything. all his money’s with us, he gave me his atms so everything goes straight to me. I know she’s not serious about this relationship and she’s just in it for the thrill. I know when the thrill is gone, she’ll be gone too.
Now that it’s all blown up in the office and everywhere else. The thrill is gone. Now that I told her she can have him, but never my husband, the exciting feeling of taking something forbidden is gone.
My husband, we all believe now is going through soomething psychological. I can’t explain it and I won’t because it’s been tough. Make things short — Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
Friends and family and me especially have seen it, read it even in emails he sent to himself… getting mad at the person he is now, coming from the person he was before. It’s scary when you read it but it’s something that tells us, he needs professional psychological help.
We all hate the woman because she took advantage of him and now, he’s gotten worse .. she could care less still.
I’ve been betrayed. twice. I’ve been in pain for nearly a year… and it’s not yet over.
His family, our friends and I all agreed we’ll have to take him to a professional, willingly or not he will have to go. When he’s more sorted out, I know this whole drama will start again.
Will I still want him back? ask me now, and no.
In months or even years’ time. I don’t know.
I don’t know him anymore today. I don’t know if I will know him again in the future.
again… only God knows. His will be done. I know he will tell me the right answer when the time has come.
For now, we need prayers from everyone. I also would appreciate if anyone here knows of an experienced psychiatrist. we need one fast.